Why Stress??..No need..

Everyone wishes to achieve all that one thinks of and also in a way one desires to achieve.

But in reality, it does not happen so. We get a few and miss a few. And quietly we use the proverb, “Man proposes, God disposes”. We become anxious, worried and stressed out from the ones that we could not accomplish; and finally we become sad.

Let us try to understand in a simpler term, what actually makes us stressed and how to avoid. I have drawn a simple diagram below where X axis represents the ones that are within or outside of our control and Y axis represents the ones that are accomplished or not.

Quadrant 2 is the best one where we accomplish whatever is in our control. Here let us pat our back and be happy. Quadrant 1 is where we missed out a few for some reason that we could have accomplished. Reason may be lack of time, low productivity, ignorance or any other that is under our direct influence. Here we should learn from the slippage and move on with a will to improve upon.

Quadrant 3 is a good one where something that is beyond our control is achieved and we should be grateful to God to make our day a lucky one. Let us celebrate this one. Quadrant 4 is the nasty one where we did not achieve the ones that are outside of our control, but we wished to get them somehow. We did not have any direct influence over them and we only prayed that somehow they are achieved! Here we become anxious and stressed out.

There is no point to focus on those that are outside our control, rather focus on achieving all that are within the realm of our direct control.

As long as we are in Quadrant 1 and 2, we are happy and stress free.